tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post1123891172071596379..comments2024-03-12T01:01:31.977-04:00Comments on Menopausal Mother: Mirror Mirror On The Wallmenopausal mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.comBlogger77125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-20857953921662939032014-02-06T08:18:59.806-05:002014-02-06T08:18:59.806-05:00Thank you or stopping by for the read and I'm ...Thank you or stopping by for the read and I'm glad you liked it!menopausal mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-21421733059827767552014-02-06T06:27:13.337-05:002014-02-06T06:27:13.337-05:00What a moving post! I know many of us reading it ...What a moving post! I know many of us reading it can totally identify with it. I am middle aged now and still remember the stuggle I had with negative thoughts and ideas about myself. Thankfully, I am older and wiser now and hate to think of anyone else suffering like this. Your post made me cry but it also made me smile. Good work!fsmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06594381836263987490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-52379282995821987132014-02-04T16:54:57.182-05:002014-02-04T16:54:57.182-05:00Thank you, Astra. It's always so hard to dig d...Thank you, Astra. It's always so hard to dig deep and share these things but in the end if it helps someone else, then it was totally worth it!menopausal mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-75797678164041097332014-02-04T16:46:27.738-05:002014-02-04T16:46:27.738-05:00Thank you so much for this post. I believe you ha...Thank you so much for this post. I believe you have found your inner beauty AND a way to express yourself outwardly so very eloquently. Loved this :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12335298938937173862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-25346811314788342872014-02-03T22:32:43.505-05:002014-02-03T22:32:43.505-05:00I think Twiggy is the one who changed it all back ...I think Twiggy is the one who changed it all back in the 60's. She introduced the skinny look, which quickly became fashionable. I remember looking at her pictures as a young girl and wondering if I could ever get that thin. You're correct about older art---the women in those pictures would nowadays be considered terribly overweight. I think I was born in the wrong era! With the help of menopausal mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-83748269471132531382014-02-03T22:28:35.347-05:002014-02-03T22:28:35.347-05:00Oh man, your comment nailed it! Yes! I wish people...Oh man, your comment nailed it! Yes! I wish people wouldn't judge others based on looks, and I hate that our society puts so much pressure on us to be thin and beautiful When I look at the beauty queens from the 40's and 50's, they would be considered overweight by today's standards. Meanwhile, I'm thinking they looked HEALTHY! Also---the cruelty of children--that stays with menopausal mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-43903732436172116892014-02-03T22:21:48.876-05:002014-02-03T22:21:48.876-05:00One thing I have learned since posting this, is ho...One thing I have learned since posting this, is how many of us are out there---wounded souls---who need to learn how to love ourselves again. What you said about the hamburgers---wow--I remember doing the same thing. Glad this post resonated with you, too. Thank you for being here and sharing this with me, Ceil <3menopausal mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-3026377610511303292014-02-03T08:15:07.571-05:002014-02-03T08:15:07.571-05:00Thank you so much for sharing your story. So many ...Thank you so much for sharing your story. So many people have distorted views about their own bodies, whether due to a sick parent or society in general. If more people post stories like the one you told, maybe more people would accept the fact that we are all different. I think media is partly to blame, but I see a shift taking place, and I hope it continues. We weren't all meant to be Theresa Wizahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09991340792082953965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-54161622700171483102014-02-02T21:46:18.289-05:002014-02-02T21:46:18.289-05:00What a powerful story. What a shame to have spent ...What a powerful story. What a shame to have spent so much of your life on a lot of yo-yo dieting, although I can certainly understand why as kids can be very, very cruel. Marcia, you might like a novel that a friend of mine here in Toronto wrote..."Last Summer At Barebones"...her name is Diane Baker Mason. I read her book last summer, was able to get it here. if you can't get it in Nicole Chardenethttp://www.nicolechardenet.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-80968185104031611772014-02-02T14:32:57.179-05:002014-02-02T14:32:57.179-05:00Hi Marsha! You know that I voted for you already. ...Hi Marsha! You know that I voted for you already. Go Team Meno!<br />You really spoke to my heart. I also had a dominant parent (my Mom) who was very interested in having small daughters. I remember going out for fast food as a family, and all the girls having to put the bun aside, and eat the burger only. <br /><br />I have my issues with yo-yo dieting too, and I'm only now really trying to Ceilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06293917798735764739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-6722789428951564212014-02-02T10:03:29.200-05:002014-02-02T10:03:29.200-05:00I'm really glad this resonated with you, Miche...I'm really glad this resonated with you, Michelle! All we can do is keep reassuring our children that they are loved and to not put so much stock in how a person looks on the outside. All the matters is what is in the heart!menopausal mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-36066346929963076102014-02-02T10:01:59.357-05:002014-02-02T10:01:59.357-05:00Thank you so much for these kind words of encourag...Thank you so much for these kind words of encouragement, Rosey! Looks like we all have inner demons we are fighting. Everybody has a struggle and much of it is trickled down from our childhood. I consider myself a work in progress at this point. I'm trying not to worry too much about my weight or what people think. It's a hard habit to shake, that's for sure!menopausal mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-41181764227587904452014-02-02T09:59:23.758-05:002014-02-02T09:59:23.758-05:00I'm glad you stopped by and shared this with m...I'm glad you stopped by and shared this with me, too. You are so wonderful and supportive of me. Thank you, Shay! <3menopausal mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-72876369137602966002014-02-02T09:58:27.596-05:002014-02-02T09:58:27.596-05:00You are so right---many, MANY people out there dea...You are so right---many, MANY people out there dealing with these issues. Society & media has pressured us into this mode of thinking that we are not good enough or deserving unless we are thin. We need to break this cycle now. menopausal mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-73768976651506162222014-02-02T09:56:43.437-05:002014-02-02T09:56:43.437-05:00Ohhhh Beth you made me teary-eyed here. We are lik...Ohhhh Beth you made me teary-eyed here. We are like sisters in every sense of the word. I too, think you are beautiful inside and out and it makes me sad that you are struggling with the same issues. We DO need to learn to love ourselves, but I know it will take time. I just can't tell you how much your words mean to me. Thank you for this gift, dear friend <3menopausal mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-37173644360987068642014-02-02T08:01:50.741-05:002014-02-02T08:01:50.741-05:00This is truly amazing, Marcia and one that people ...This is truly amazing, Marcia and one that people need to read. I am so sorry for what you have gone through. The realization that our children are watching is a hard one too...I know I have passed on some things that I wish I had not. I really loved this post. Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03390594619083013119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-67338772771990585292014-02-01T19:42:45.543-05:002014-02-01T19:42:45.543-05:00I've already voted, and your numbers are looki...I've already voted, and your numbers are looking good!!<br /><br />I'm reading the post, and I'm thinking, 'Is that her writing, or a guest poster?" I scrolled back up twice to see. I am so surprised!!! Really!! You are so amazingly gorgeous and your kids are too (I'm not just saying that, I really think that every time you put up pictures). Such a pity something so mail4roseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17850985344834209198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-38965421278968911102014-02-01T16:15:33.931-05:002014-02-01T16:15:33.931-05:00Holy shit, Marcia, you consistently amaze me with ...Holy shit, Marcia, you consistently amaze me with your versatility. I can't even put into words how this post made me feel. From the very beginning, where you talk about the woman who was working with the trainer...my gosh, I got tears in my eyes just from imagining it. And the rest of it...WOW. You put it all so eloquently...you used your talent so beautifully here. So glad I stopped byTrashy Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05974972104716265849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-9454672385889269712014-02-01T14:18:06.051-05:002014-02-01T14:18:06.051-05:00Powerful. Beautiful. Most heart-breaking too...
...Powerful. Beautiful. Most heart-breaking too...<br /><br />Thank you for sharing this part of your life, yourself with us. I pray it touches many lives. I am so glad you were courageous enough to speak your heart, many have similar issues and histories consumed by this weight monster. And I hate that.Chris Carterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06264982568439090428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-53060199054981490332014-02-01T13:14:58.841-05:002014-02-01T13:14:58.841-05:00MARCIA!!! I'm so glad Starr did her weakly wra...MARCIA!!! I'm so glad Starr did her weakly wrap -up or I wouldn't have known about this post! First of all, kudos for the bravery to write something so personal and raw. BUT YOU HAVE TO READ MY POST ON STARR'S BLOG!! We have so much in common I had chills reading yours!! I saw the words, "body dysmorphic disorder" and almost fell off my chair cuz ME TOO. OMG. I'm still Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-62695451584623692752014-02-01T12:53:52.579-05:002014-02-01T12:53:52.579-05:00Awwww…you are too kind, RPD.I am trying to amend t...Awwww…you are too kind, RPD.I am trying to amend the situation with my kids---I tell them every day how much I love them and how beautiful they are inside and out. I like what you said here about being healthy--that's what is important, NOT what a person looks like on the outside. If only people could see with their hearts and not just their eyes. menopausal mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-32333706251379704062014-02-01T12:42:26.988-05:002014-02-01T12:42:26.988-05:00Oh Robin, my heart ACHES right now at your words. ...Oh Robin, my heart ACHES right now at your words. I am so sorry you're going through this! I'm sure your mother means well, but just like my folks, they are from a different generation that put a lot of stock in being thin. I don't think their generation had to tackle so many obesity issues like we do today, and they just don't understand that it is truly an illness. It bothers memenopausal mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-83263356481644271802014-02-01T12:30:47.388-05:002014-02-01T12:30:47.388-05:00Oh Manal, I am so glad you shared your story with ...Oh Manal, I am so glad you shared your story with me! You were on the opposite spectrum of the weight issue, but a problem just the same. Kids can be so cruel. You strike me as a very kind hearted, strong woman from the blogs of yours that I have read. You really are an inspiration! Thank you for spreading the love---this meant a lot to me.menopausal mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-10645309492813947322014-02-01T12:27:32.935-05:002014-02-01T12:27:32.935-05:00Thank you for the kind words, Chloe. I appreciate ...Thank you for the kind words, Chloe. I appreciate that you stopped by to read my post!menopausal mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-518068641407666837.post-87722547099097144242014-02-01T12:26:57.500-05:002014-02-01T12:26:57.500-05:00I never knew that about you---I've seen your p...I never knew that about you---I've seen your pictures and I have always thought of you as a true beauty. Sad how much our parents and peers have that kind of power over us when we are little. Sounds like both of us will always be a work in progress. I just have to mentally shake myself every day when I get down and think about all the positive things in my life. menopausal mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.com