Wednesday, August 6, 2025

The Truth About Sexual Health and Aging: How to Keep Your Sex Life Thriving Over 50


Some interesting information was dropped in my email this week, so I thought it might be important to share with any of my readers who might be dealing with sexual health issues after age 50. This info comes from the team at Health Test:  

Among many other aspects of life that change over time, as we age, one of the most discussed but less openly addressed is sexual health. After the age of 50, men and women often experience physical and hormonal changes that affect their sex lives. But the myth that a fulfilling sex life is only for the young needs to be challenged.

Here, the team at HealthTest explains that maintaining a satisfying sex life after 50 is possible, and it can be better than ever. The team breaks down the common concerns with ageing and sexual health, the biological changes that happen, and the steps to take to ensure your sex life remains healthy and enjoyable.

The Biological Changes and What They Mean for Sexual Health 

Different biological changes occur as men and women age, especially in their sexual health. One of the biggest changes for women is the menopause, which usually happens around the age of 51. This transition can bring several symptoms that can impact sexual health, such as reduced libido, changes in orgasm intensity, and vaginal dryness. As oestrogen levels drop from the menopause, the vaginal walls start to thin, causing discomfort during sex, and as levels of testosterone decrease, which influences sex drive, affecting libido and sexual arousal.

For men, these changes can occur gradually. First, testosterone levels start to decline at the age of 30 to 40, and by the time men get to their 50s, they may notice a drop in libido and reduced sexual stamina. These changes are completely natural, but they are not inevitable. The fact is that sexual health after 50 can remain strong with the right attention and care.

Mental Health and Sex: The Connection You Need to Understand 

Often very overlooked, but mental health plays an important role in sexual well-being as we age. Stress and anxiety levels can rise as we manage life, from children leaving home to concerns about physical looks or career changes, all of which impact sexual health. In your 50s, self-consciousness can affect your confidence in the bedroom. Men may find trouble with performance issues like erectile dysfunction, which women may feel discouraged by social pressures due to ageing and physical changes. These emotions from this can create a negative environment, stopping intimacy and desire.

It's important to have open conversations with your partner to navigate these challenges together. Talk openly about this concern - it will help find solutions that can reduce anxiety and build strong emotional intimacy. Sex isn’t just about physical pleasure; it’s about having an emotional bond and connection to keep a satisfying sex life as we age.



Hormones and How They Impact Your Sex Life

Hormones are the most important factor when it comes to sexual health, and the changes can impact libido and sexual performance as we age. For women, menopause comes with major hormonal shifts, leading to symptoms of fatigue, low energy, mood swings, and decreased sex drive. Men also experience different effects as testosterone levels drop, which can lead to difficulty with erections and decreased stamina.

However, there are successful treatments for men and women to manage these imbalances. For women, hormone replacement therapy known as HRT can help lift menopausal symptoms, such as low libido and vaginal dryness, while topical treatments and lubricants can offer additional relief. One study found that women on HRT were significantly more likely to report being sexually active than those not using HRT. Men who have symptoms of low testosterone may benefit from testosterone replacement therapy (TRT), although this should be undertaken with medical guidance to avoid side effects.

Lifestyle Changes That Can Boost Your Sex Life After 50

Exercise Regularly – Keeping active has a direct impact on sexual functions as it improves energy, blood circulation and reducing stress. Cardiovascular exercise such as swimming, walking and cycling, support heart health. Strength training will increase muscle tone and stamina, as physical activities will make it easier to maintain energy levels during sexual activity from the enhanced blood flow through the body.



Maintaining a Healthy Diet – Eat foods that maintain a balanced diet, such as fruits, vegetables, lean proteins, and healthy fats, all of which support your hormone health by providing essential nutrients for your hormone production. Healthy fats are key for oestrogen and testosterone, while antioxidant fruits and vegetables reduce inflammation. Omega-3 fatty acids, like fish, can improve circulation, which is necessary for sexual performance. Also, watch your alcohol intake and try to reduce it, and quitting smoking can help blood flow, which is especially important for erectile function in men.

Prioritising Sleep -  Sleep is another essential for hormonal balance. Persistent insomnia can lead to low libido and decreased energy levels as the body struggles to regulate key hormones, such as cortisol levels, when sleep is disrupted. This then impacts stress, recovery, and energy. If insomnia carries on, it can lead to high levels of stress, low testosterone, and oestrogen. So, make sure you aim for 7-9 hours of good quality sleep each night to support hormones and overall health.

Mindfulness and Stress Reduction – Include meditation, yoga, or deep breathing exercises that can reduce stress and improve emotional intimacy. A great deep breathing exercise to follow is inhale through your nose for 4 seconds, hold for 7 seconds, and exhale slowly through your mouth for 8 seconds. Repeat this cycle for 3 to 4 rounds. This will trigger the parasympathetic nervous system, promote tranquillity, and lower stress. Reducing anxiety around sex will help you reconnect with your loved one and intensify your sexual experience.

See Your Doctor Regularly – Have regular check-ups with your healthcare provider, as they can help monitor your hormone levels and look at any underlying health issues. Early conversations can help you prevent potential issues down the line and stay on top of your sexual health. 


Friday, July 18, 2025

Fly On The Wall With Moose Rats At The Nut House

Welcome to another edition of Fly On The Wall group blog postings hosted by Karen of Baking In A Tornado. Today, three of us are welcoming you into our homes to see what a fly might see (or overhear). 

Things have been quieter around here since we aren't RV traveling in this summer heat--but I sure miss it! I've been busy though fostering a beautiful Jack Russell Terrier mix (female) that I found on the streets a few weeks ago. I'm trying to find a loving home for her---and not just a shelter. She doesn't get on very well with my pug Yoda, so we cannot keep her. This kills me because I have grown very attached to Lola. Local peeps, if you're interested or know someone looking for the sweetest, most affectionate dog in the world, please leave a comment here on the blog, and I will reach out. 

I hope all my American friends had a great 4th of July celebration! We almost went out of town that weekend but I'm so glad we stayed since many of our neighbors count on us hosting a fireworks party. We had a 'blast" (oh yes, there were some BIG fireworks!!) and ate all the fattening foods (remember holiday food doesn't have calories!) until we were almost comatose. Some fun photos from the evening: 





The fly has also been privy to some odd conversations with my husband this month:

"I woke up to a strange sound---I thought we had rats in our attic again, but it sounded like LARGE rats."
"That was the roofers putting down tiles."
"Yeah, I thought maybe it was a new breed of rat since it had heavy footstepos ---like maybe a moose rat."
"If such a thing existed in our attic, I would have moved out a long time ago."



"When I was a kid, I loved playing kick the can in the street with the neighbors."
"You can still play that game with your friends, but now it would be called Kick the Bucket."

 

"Someone asked me today how old I am--I told them I was only 69 and they seemed surprised."
"It was probably a mortician thinking you look like you already have one foot in the grave..."


"We need a new mattress."
"We can't afford that right now."
"Maybe some day in the future."
"Considering how old you are, that future window is narrowing by the minute."



"I'm so frustrated with my weight!"
"Well, we have been snacking more than usual lately."
"The scale knows that. When I stepped on it this morning, instead of giving me a number, it just oinked."


"We're spending too much money every month on birdseed and peanuts!"
"I'm sure God has a special place for us in heaven for taking care of his critters."
"Yeah, it's called the Nut House.



I think I'm already in heaven since my home IS a nut house. Even now, I can hear the moose rats stomping around in my attic, playing soccer with my Christmas ornaments..... 

***WANT MORE MENO MAMA? Check out my picnic food piece for AARP/The Ethel HERE

Remember to stop by these other sites to see what the nosy fly found!

Baking In A Tornado                                https://www.BakingInATornado.com

                                

On the Border                                         https://dlt-lifeontheranch.blogspot.com/



Friday, June 20, 2025

Fly On The Wall With The Stinky Cheese Man

     Welcome to another edition of Fly On The Wall group blog postings hosted by Karen of Baking In A Tornado. Today, there are three of us bloggers inviting you into our homes to see what a fly might see (or overhear).


That nosey fly has been buzzing around me like crazy in this Florida heat, and he has been bringing several of his friends! Shoo fly, SHOO! He has also been eavesdropping on my conversations. 


We just finished up a lovely (but very hot!!) 5-day camping trip at Peace River Oaks, where I almost had to call 911 when Mac suffered a mild but scary heat stroke. The dummy didn't drink enough water before we headed out to walk the trails, so he got a good scolding from me. After a cold shower, electrolyte beverages, and a nice nap in the cold RV, he was fine and ready to party over a rousing game of cards.


 Fortunately, the next RV resort we're going to for our July 4th vacation has a pool and an air-conditioned tiki bar, so Mr. Mac (a.k.a. "Hamilton") can stay cool while drinking his mai tais. 


Father's Day with the family was loads of fun even though I got beat numerous times in cornhole by my 2 sons. The oldest kept bragging about his wins, so I decided to annoy him the rest of the night, speaking to him in the "Talky Tina" voice (from one of my fave Twilight Zone episodes). "My name is Talky Tina and I don't like you..."  My son was not amused.

As I said earlier, the fly has been following me around (or most likely Mac since he sweats a LOT outside and smells like the Stinky Cheese Man) at home and during our RV trips. Here are some snippets of conversation the pesky critter overheard: 



"If 25 year old Hamilton could see how 69 year old you has gotten slack with your personal hygiene on these camping trips, I wonder what he would think."
"He would call me 'Hammie the Hobo' and walk far, far away."



"I really think I'm getting much smarter as I get older!"
"I'm getting dumber as I get older. That means by the time we're really old, you'll be a genius and I'll be a moron."

"Why does my pillow smell like corn chips?"
"The dog has been napping on it."
"Great....every time I lie down, I feel like I'm sleeping at a Frito Lay factory."


"I'm writing an article for AARP about things we would tell our younger selves. What advice would you give yourself for handling the future?"
"One word. Euthanasia."



"Why do you have that packet of lunchmeat on your legs?"
"The chicken slices fell on my lap!"
"That's the first time you've had meat between your legs in a long time...."



"Don't feed the dog anymore treats--he's had a lot today, and I don't want him vomiting--then eating again!"
"Don't worry about that--he's not a Roman dog."



"Wow, this town of Moorehaven looks small and rather dull. Not much to do here."
"Yeah, they should rename it Less-Haven."



"The doctor says I have early symptoms of osteopenia."
"Really? He told me I just have little penia."



" I used to think that the manatee was my spirit animal, but I've changed my mind."
"To what?"
"The pigeon, because it's grey and fat."
"That sounds about right."

     Mac is out mowing the lawn right now and---you guessed it---sweating. Stay tuned for the next episode of Hammie the Hobo Meets the Stinky Cheese Man. Ham and cheese, anyone?

***Want more Meno Mama? I am delighted to share another humor essay that I was assigned to write for AARP, titled "My Kids Think I'm A Hoarder!" I'm very proud of this funny piece and hope you will read it HERE. I also have another foodie piece up on AARP/The Girlfriend: "Easy 5-Ingredient Summer Dishes" that you can check out HERE

Now go check out my other blogger buddies doing the FOW challenge!

Baking In A Tornado                                https://www.BakingInATornado.com

                                

On the Border                                         https://dlt-lifeontheranch.blogspot.com/





Friday, June 13, 2025

The Menopause Decoder

If you're going through menopause right now, chances are you're not sure what to expect, and your male partner has even less of an idea of what you're experiencing. Author Stormy Quinn says that after realizing there was no real guide to help her—and countless other women—navigate the hormonal changes that impact relationships, she decided to create one. The result is: The Menopause Decoder: The Ultimate Men’s Guide to Understanding and Supporting His Partner Through Change a book designed to offer honest insights and practical solutions for couples trying to make sense of it all.



"This book exists because, for some bizarre reason, nobody prepares men for perimenopause," says Quinn. "Not your dad, not your friends, not that one awkward high school health class where the gym teacher mumbled something about “the female cycle” and then made you watch a VHS tape from 1987. Society just kind of skips right over this stage like “Ah, she’ll figure it out.” And while she might eventually, where does that leave you? So here we are. Welcome. You’re not alone, and you’re not crazy. You’re just in a relationship with someone who is entering one of the most hormonally wild, emotionally charged, and biologically confusing seasons of her life—and you’re going to need a map. Or better yet, a playbook."

Your partner sees that you are changing, and he doesn't know how to help. Mood swings, sleepless nights, emotional distance, or sudden tears—your partner realizes that you don't seem like yourself lately, but there’s a good reason for that and a way to understand it all.  

The Menopause Decoder: The Ultimate Men’s Guide to Understanding and Supporting His Partner Through Change is a new guide for men who want to understand what’s happening during perimenopause and menopause, and how to stay connected through it.

Written in a straightforward, relatable tone, this book breaks down the hormonal shifts affecting a woman's mind, body, and emotions. It offers insights into what she may be experiencing, what the man might notice, and how he can support his partner without making things worse.

Inside, your male partner will discover:

      What perimenopause and menopause can look like

      Why she might not be able to explain what she’s feeling

      How to avoid common communication mistakes

      Simple ways to stay supportive, calm, and grounded

 

Whether you’ve been together for a few years or a few decades, this is a practical, judgment-free resource to help men show up during one of the most misunderstood stages of a woman’s life.

 

The Menopause Decoder: The Ultimate Men’s Guide to Understanding and Supporting His Partner Through Change is now available on Amazon

BIO:

Stormy Quinn is an author and entrepreneur driven by personal experience and a deep understanding of the real struggles women and couples face during perimenopause and menopause. Her mission is simple: to provide a resource that helps women and the people who love them understand what’s really going on and how to work through it together. For more information, visit: https://www.venusvitalitynu.com/




Friday, May 23, 2025

Fly On The Wall With The Old Farts

     Welcome to another edition of Fly On The Wall group blog postings hosted by Karen of Baking In A Tornado. Today, there are four of us bloggers inviting you into our homes to see what a fly might see (or overhear). Hopefully, this month, the fly saw everyone having a fabulous Mother's Day---I know I enjoyed mine! Who doesn't like a day to be spoiled?


      I've REALLY been feeling my age lately. It probably started with my recent bone scan that determined the start of osteopenia. Yikes! So I've started walking daily as well as eating more dairy and using hand weights. Apparently, yoga and zumba hasn't been enough. This means I have to add more physical stuff to my routine (and anyone who knows me well knows I tend to be....lazy...when it comes to physical exertion). I've been teasing Mac about being an old fart since he turns 69 this July, but here I am having bone deterioration, so I guess I'M the OLD FART! Naturally, the nosy fly has overheard plenty of snarky conversations recently about our aging issues....



"Oh, look, there's a big antique show going on." 

"Antiques? You'd better hurry up and get over there since you're the main attraction."



"I read a funny meme about putting your loved one's ashes in an hourglass so they can still be part of family game night."
"Knowing you, my ashes would end up in the grandkids' sandbox."
"Or the kitty's litter box...."



"Hurry up and turn the A/C on! I'm HOT!"
"You hot? Thankfully, at your age, no one else thinks that."



     
We've continued with our RV trips, which means there have been more fun conversations around the fire while cooking s'mores. Of course, the marshmallows weren't the only things getting roasted:



"I thought you said we were cutting out carbs while we camp. I noticed I have pasta on my plate, but you don't."
"You need the carbs for energy, even if they cause a little weight gain." 
"So, instead of Make America Great Again, this is Make Mac Fat Again."


"Why did you buy such big tires for the truck to pull the RV?"
"Because size matters."
"That's what she said."



"Did you pick up the sod?"
"Yep, and I already laid it."
"That's the only thing around here that's getting laid...."


"You know, I'm your Big Mac and you can play with my McNuggets any time you'd like."
"You're also one fry short of a full order."



"Why do you eat so fast?"
"When you come from a family with eight siblings, it's do or die at the dinner table."



"Geez, your bunion is getting bigger. It's huge!!"
"I call it my sixth toe."
"Either that or you're turning into a platypus." 



"I need to declutter and get rid of some of my tchotchkes."
"Yeah, you have too many Titanic-themed memorabilia. No one wants your fake icebergs because their value has 'melted' over time."



"I'm burning up on this hiking trail! I feel like a rotisserie chicken turning over a spit."
"If you're the chicken, then I'm the shriveled up wiener at the gas station deli."



"Geez, thanks for leaving the camper door open so all the mosquitoes can get inside."
"You're a mosquito."
"If I were a mosquito, I'd bite the hell out of you for leaving the camper door 
open." 


    Our RV camping has been awesome, but now that summer is coming, things will slow down a bit. I fell in LOVE with Lake Kissimmee State Park---made lots of new RV friends there. One of them---Kim, was eating an apple while we were hanging out, and suddenly three deer came to our campsite and let us feed them apple slices. It was a magical experience! Then later that night, a freaking armadillo came over and sat by my feet. He was eating something on the ground and was totally comfortable chilling out next to me. THIS is why I love the RV life! Another reason we were anxious to explore Lake Kissimmee is because our dear friend Kristin Jacobs, who passed away several years ago, has a trail there named after her, so of course, we had to walk it! Then two weeks after that park, we were off to Torry Island, where the sunsets were spectacular and the alligators plenty. Up next in June is Peace River again for a longer stay this time, since it has become one of our favorite spots. Temps are supposed to be in the mid-90s, so there will be a LOT of sweating going on.  










     It's getting hot as blazes here in Florida. I'm thinking Mac may just spontaneously combust while he's outside doing yard work or walking a camp trail with me... If he does, I already know where I'll be putting his ashes. Anyone have a cat pan that needs refilling?


***WANT MORE MENO MAMA? Speaking of aging, I had a blast writing a humor essay for AARP about things I do now that I never thought I'd do when I was younger. Check it out HERE for a good laugh! And I wrote another one "anonymously" for AARP about my husband's refusal to retire, which you can read HERE I also have some yummy & easy ground beef recipes for you over at AARP/The Girlfriend that you can find HERE 

Be sure to go see what the fly has been up to at these other blogs:

Baking In A Tornado                                https://www.BakingInATornado.com

                                

On the Border                                         https://dlt-lifeontheranch.


 What TF Sarah                                 https://crazymamallama.blogspot.com/





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