Friday, February 19, 2021

Fly On The Wall During The Valentine's Day Challenge

Welcome to another edition of Fly On The Wall group blog posting, hosted by Karen of Baking In A Tornado. Today, four bloggers are bravely letting you into their homes to see what goes on behind closed doors. At the Doyle house, we were busy shooing the fly away from our Valentine's Day treats. But he got an earful about my love life.


Last weekend, everyone on social media was posting photos of their Valentine's Day celebrations---oodles of flowers, candy, champagne, and romantic cards. But what caught my eye was the #ValentinesDayChallenge, a questionnaire on how you met your current partner and when you knew he or she was THE ONE. I got such a kick out of reading everyone's responses, I thought it was time to come clean about my own twisted tale of love (that almost didn't happen because of a photograph). Here are the answers I posted on social media about my hubs Mac:

How’d you two meet? On a blind date in 1982. We spoke on the phone for a month, exchanged photos by mail, and then he ghosted me because he didn't think I was cute enough. I called him a week later, chewed him out for being an ass, and was ready to hang up when he suddenly said, "My God, you've got moxie. I like a feisty woman. Wanna go to a Sheena Easton concert with me?"

This is the 1982 photo I sent to Mac, He didn't like my hair. Duhhhh it was the 80s!

Yes, 37 years on April 7th. Can't believe we have survived this long without killing each other. Just kidding----he's my soulmate, except for the days he forgets to refill the toilet paper roll.
First Date: NOT a Sheena Easton concert (thank God). We went to the Stained Glass Pub in Ft. Lauderdale. He ordered a sissy wine spritzer, I ordered a double-shot rum collins. ***If you know how we are today, then you know who is the bad influencer in this relationship.
How long have you been together: 39 years. Yeah, I can't believe it either because sometimes he does stuff that makes me ask, "Do I know you??"
Age difference: 3 1/2 years. He's older, and I never let him forget it when he gets up from the couch with a loud groan.

Mac did NOT look like this photo when I met him. Imagine less a LOT less hair....
Who was interested first:
First him. Then me. Then him. And finally, it was mutual. FYI, he did NOT look anything like the photo he sent me from a time when he had a head full of hair and could pass as Tom Selleck's twin.

Who is taller: He is by 2 inches. If I wore high heels, I would tower over him, so I wear flats because I don't want to look like The Jolly Green Giant next to him.

Who said I love you first: He did after we watched E.T. at the movie theatre. We went down to the beach and he said it. I did not say it back because I was still thinking..... and thinking.....he waited a long time to hear those words.....
Most impatient: Me. Always me. Except when the cable goes out during his beloved Heat games.
Most sensitive: Him. He cried at E.T.
Loudest: Me. Especially after a few libations. I laugh too loud.
Most stubborn: Him. No, me. Okay, both of us. My anger has a longer hang time.
Falls asleep first: Him. I'm too busy staying up late on Facebook and watching cat videos.
Better morning person: Him 100%. He is loud and talkative when he wakes up. I need my coffee first before I feel like people-ing. 

Wedding day, April 7th, 1984

Better driver: Him, because I freaking HATE driving. But I do share my opinions about his driving skills when he is behind the wheel 
Most competitive: Him. Don't ever sit next to him during a Chiefs game. And playing Monopoly with him? Aw HELLLLL no.
Where do you eat out most as a couple? Nowhere. There's a damn pandemic going on, didn't you know? But we do love Chinese take-out food the best.
Who is more social? Him, after a few beers. Me, 24/7. He also talks to house plants. Does that count?
Where was your first kiss? In a parking lot. It was our first date. We had just gotten out of the car---I stopped him and said, "Why don't we just kiss right now to see if there are any sparks, and that will determine if this date will continue?" Needless to say, I felt FIREWORKS, so the date continued for 39 years.
20 years ago, married about 17 years here. Guess who the dominant one is in our marriage?

Who initiated your first kiss?
Duhhhhh, it was me.🤷‍♀️
How long did it take to get serious? 24 hours.
Plans on a date night? Our fave date night is sitting in the backyard garden, listening to oldies tunes and singing to them karaoke-style to annoy all the howling, stray cats in the neighborhood.
Who picks where you go to dinner? Me, because Asian food is life.
Who is the first one to admit when they’re wrong? Him. Yeah, sorry about that.
Who has more tattoos? Me. I have 7. He only has one which I talked him into getting several years ago after too many glasses of wine. But we don't talk about that night.
Spends the most? Toss up---I'll spend a lot of small amounts of money on garden and house decor stuff. He goes big with outdoor grills, bikes, orthopedic shoes, and....water spraying fans. Hell, I have no idea where his mind goes when he shops.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled? Montana. Waiting for that retirement RV to travel the U.S.
Who drives when you are together? He thinks I drive like Mario Andretti, so yeah, it's always him Didn't I already tell you that I hate driving?

"Come grow old with me, the best is yet to be."


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  1. Love all of these tidbits of info. And now I know that not only do we both have October birthdays, but we both have April anniversaries (good to know in case I'm ever on Jeopardy and that's one of the answers).

    1. Oh gosh, I didn't know your anniversary was in April! What date?

  2. What a great picture you painted. Loved every inch of it. Now I REALLY.....know you. Thanks for sharing all those tidbits.

  3. Aw, this is such an awesome questionnaire. I LOVE your answers! You made me laugh and also touched my heart. You guys are a cool couple.

    My beau-hubs and I also watched ET at the movie theatre. I was 16 and he was 17. It was our first summer together. He also cried. :)

    1. That's so sweet! Nice to know there are still some sensitive guys there!

  4. I just Loved this glimpse into your life! Husby and I haved just passed 45. When people ask me how it's done, I point them to articles like this one. A little attraction. A few shared interests. And a LOT of humour! <3

  5. Bloody computer..............
    Let's try again ............
    Loved the post

  6. you two are so damn cute! My husband and I met on a Friday and moved in together then very next day! That was 30 years ago and the only night we have ever spent apart was this past Oct when I had my hip replaces and they wouldn't let him stay with me. We stayed on the phone all night!

  7. This is an awesome post! I love it. And I love that hair. The 80's were all about hair. :D My husband and I met online in an English forum. I was learning about the craft of writing and he was keeping up with his English. Ten months later, I flew to Germany, he flew to the States a few times and then we decided life was much better together. I quit my IT job in Chicago and moved to Germany. No regrets.



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