Before I begin my blog, I'd like to thank my dear, sweet friend Marcia, the Menopausal Mother, ever so much for asking me to be a part of Wacky Wednesday! I am so honored to be a part of this and to be in such amazing company.
Thank you again for your support of me and my blog.... I now give you....
Rah, Rah, Siss, Boom... Hit the Bottle: A Cheer Mom's Saga
Uttering those words even in print makes me shudder and want to quickly seek out the nearest wine bottle and add a straw.
Don't get me wrong, I don't have a problem with cheering. In elementary school, I was a cheerleader. I think it's great for the girls to build team spirit and bond on a different level.
Our cheer program, as competitive cheer leaders begins in August and ends sometime in February. All the kids and moms are in each others faces constantly. That's not always a bad thing - but it is a lot of "quality time" spent together on fields and in bleachers.
My problem.... The moms.
I have a very low bullshit tolerance. I hate drama. I hate nonsense and I especially hate it when it spills over to the kids on some level. I do not keep my mouth shut when it becomes enough.
Every year it's something new and different - and the drama isn't really "about" the kids. It's about the parental insecurities and the "what about my kid" nonsense. It drives me nuts and remaining quiet is not my strong suit.
One year it was rapid fire email of nonsense and perpetual "reply all" to things that had nothing to do with me or my kid. I don't need to know. Another year it's parental sensitivity of "why not my kid". For God's sake - these kids are in each other's faces enough... not every kid needs to be involved in every single play date, sleep over, picture moment, trip to the zoo.. whatever... Give it a rest!
Three quarters of the time... this is the problem with these programs. The parents... strike that... the MOMS. The ones trying to live vicariously through their children & recapture moments of their childhood that they've lost - or that they didn't participate in for one reason or another....
Put your pom poms down, woman - before you break a hip...
I think as parents, we sometimes lose sight of what's real and what the kids really think about things that are going on. Are they really tortured that Susie went to Janie's house with Bootsie & Bitsy? Or is MOM upset that her child wasn't invited? Are ALL the kids there and not your child?? Well then THAT would be a problem... BUT if there are 30 kids and 4 are together... what's the problem?? Why the drama?? Why stir the pot to create a situation that DOES NOT exist??
Is my kid invited to every single play date and involved in every single thing that someone else is doing?? No...and that's OK.
If I make a big deal of it THEN she thinks something is wrong & she worries something is wrong.
Why create a problem where none exists?
It's about the kids!
As parents, our job is to support the kids - not cram false ideals down their throats or give them things to feel insecure about... Kids are totally insecure on their own. It's OUR job as parents to lift them up and tell them how awesome they ALL are. Especially during the moments where they may feel left out of something.
Save the drama for your momma....
This momma may or may not have a big ol water bottle full of Merlot to get through the season.
Rah Rah Siss Boom - hit the bottle...
Hey there! I’m Jenn from My Daily Jenn-ism.
I’m a married mom of 3. I’m a total Jersey Girl! Real Jersey, not the crap you see on TV. My husband and I have been married for 12 years. I’m proud to say he is the love of my life. We are on round two of “short ones.” We have one biological child together and one foster child we are in the process of adopting.
I’m a very proud military momma of a 20 year old son, who serves in the US Navy. My son is my heart!
I’ve been blogging for two years. I initially started blogging to release my creativity so I could finish at least one of the books I’d been working on for the past 5 years. It instead became an outlet where I can help people with the good, the bad and the ugly that life throws at you.
I’ve got a little bit of everything in my blog from what it’s like to be a foster parent, to living with lupus, to being a survivor of suicide x2, to parenting, to just life “stuff” or total goofiness.
Don’t be scared… It only sounds dark and brooding. Truth is I’m a total goofball who will always seek out the silver lining and just laugh at life.
I’ve been through a lot, but I’ve learned that God really does give you things for a reason – and every crappy moment can be used for good to help another. That has been something that I try to do as often as possible.
…um, make lemonade??
Life is short – so it’s all about finding the good in every second. There’s always something good.
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